How do you become extreme? Watch out for " the colony polarises " Phenomenon

How do you become extreme? Watch out for " the colony polarises " Phenomenon
Blindlying date in the program, a man comes up, the appearance is good, the style of conversation still does, the honoured guest threw a word suddenly, obvious query. Then, the shipping shockingly of the man, all women honoured guests begin to seize this point without putting, criticize, attack, provoke, come as a hard blow at, it seems that someone has thrown a brick away, other persons must work as one man to hit him to death, otherwise the betrayal of the will of the people. --In fact, the man is really not so bad, only speak more a word. You just finished seeing a film, felt all right, someone said suddenly, this film was too rotten! Then, you have shut up. Someone has spoken, the specially good effect is too bad, anything! Then, cover the sky and the earth and comment malicously, from the director, to the performer, to the music, to the story, incredible rubbish. You can only shut up, go to change sides again at this time, must drown by saliva. --In fact, the film is really not so bad, it was everybody that made a noise together. A word is named " The colony polarises " ,It was this kind of phenomenon that said. Compared with colony member's single decision, the extreme decision that the colony inclines to make comparisons. In some cases, the colony makes policy and agrees more on and guards one end, but in more cases, the colony makes policy and agrees more on adventurous one end. The example above, change a kind of situation, if you keep in touch with a man alone, or submit an attitude to evaluate the film, you are certain to be much more apropos, the men and films are just not so unlucky. In reality, there is unlucky thing of a lot of unlucky persons. Woman colleague in the office, offend, wait, see she may employ a lot of people, wait, meet gradually then alone quite. That piece very people of cold to her, blurt out, say a few, polarise effect, come, everybody will think this person is uncanny, no wonder everybody dislikes her, does not in fact like her at first, it is only a person perhaps. Courting the girl's man, the girl is not disagreeable, but just girl friends do not like. The girl friend always says, look, he does not always phone to you. Look, his play. The girl is not swayed. But shortly after,find girl, last the man friend circle quite, seem that should be really with him by oneself and not merely fail to see the importance, utterly more isolated. More common scene is, a garment, someone can not speak well, you come to an agreement, seem to impair one's own grade; A kind of phenomenon, when everybody marched towards a argument, you had better walk along the branch, opening up the path separately will only let you become the public enemy; A brand, if someone speaks the soil too, it then must be a slice of damage next, you are not easy to bring order out of chaos; A person, if it is needless for everybody to see, you will simply cause, but can not recognize clearly the situation Remembers a schoolgirl. Remember what concrete thing does it have, it seems to be to rumour has it she have hepatitis B. It is several girls playing together that isolate her first, then expand to the person that sits around her, finally, who speaks to her again in the whole class, just oppose all people seem. A originally very normal girl, the negative news was constant from then on, the people around condemned why she said earlier, have used a bowl with her, like her boy for being itching to throw custom clearance at once, even her deskmate applies to change the seat with the teacher It is so terrible that the colony polarises. Unfortunately, everybody in us, may be its accomplice. People all get used to it by nitpicking the eyes of querying to treat the things, and once this view is fixed, everybody will offer more arguments in this direction, the argument with the minimum part will be turned to another direction. Its result, will only let that inclination beginning to rise most step further even more. Get to the end, you find actually the result is very absurd, but everyone in us, choose obediently very naturally during the course. And the society compares. Everybody hopes to get others' approval, used to agreeing to others too, once the member of community hears others believe something, will adjust one's own position in order to accord with the major direction usually. The person who holds different views would rather keep silent, unwilling to make public wrath too, to agree to is always easier than to object to, is that right? Certainly, the extreme may not be the bad thing, if there is no colony to polarise, a lot of important value will not be realized smoothly so far. For example civil right take exercises, disable slave take exercises and women's right take exercises, been considered as the extreme and has been come as a hard blow at in many ways for a time. However, in life, the fact is very clear, the extreme may injure a lot of people, kill a lot of things, have time, you follow the decision that the colony makes, when get back to a person, will grow out a lot regret. For example, the classmates of that suspected hepatitis B, shouldn't in fact be isolated by everybody, several all feel very ashamed to always stand up with the theories now; That is always queried the boyfriend's girl by the people around, single so far, several girls all begin whether to review or not the inner circle of people make a noise; In addition, those may be better more objective decision, have been neutralized while polarised You know, life is not a seesaw, no matter in the height forever, or in the lower forever, not all the best observation station. Have time, depend on the middle, may find out the overall situation, see the route of retreat too. (Guo ShaoMing)

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