Until " whether sixty-year-old Mr. and Mrs. strangle the ill son " Talk about

Until " whether sixty-year-old Mr. and Mrs. strangle the ill son " Talk about
Psychological the intersection of centre and roof beam insult swallow read one report not long ago " sixty-year-old Mr. and Mrs. strangled the ill son, claim that because looks after the son and has a nervous breakdown " ,As psychological workers, I am grieved in the heart. As the saying goes: There is not a filial son before the long sick bed. But who can sympathize with this to sixty-year-old married couple in order to get rid of the agony, are ones that strangle the son helpless, helpless and grieved? Grieved the three life is that the gray hair people see black hair people off. It is some that lets the married couple of over sixty years old of one pair should be regardless of the agony which the ordinary person be unable to stand, does the 35 -year-old son who will care for for 28 years in person strangle? What we saw is that married couple strangle the son's fact, but who can realize this to married couple of over sixty years old, been bearing agony and struggle on soul for many years behind this behavior: On one hand the concentrated treatment in 28 years, when wife and grandson flee from it, standing fast at all the time of this pair of married couple; Another party but it is the mercilessness of disease, the shortage of the hospitalization cost, let the son unable to get the regular and lasting treatment all the time, add the shortage of medical information, the family is ignorant of son's disease, has not led him to treat in time after it recurs. Bringing the predicament of the whole family dementedly of the son, bring to sixty-year-old married couple even more innumerably and helplessly, depressed and hopeless. As a family inclines his all treats a certain patient, especially when this patient is unable to recover, patient relatives are often in situation of facing a difficult choice: It is originally benevolent behavior to sell away all assets and rescue people, but such behavioral back is often brought the enormous expectation of recovering to disease, once the patient recovered unsatisfactorily, even while worsening, a lot of relatives were unable to stand this kind of grief, it is apt to fall into the painful abyss that have a nervous breakdown but unable to free oneself. If does not treat and cure a patient, will lose human touch. In view of treating the high expenditure of the hospitalization cost of difficult and complicated cases at home at present, and severity and complexity of disease, much relatives manage the badly sick patient. How will the whole kinsfolks go out of the agony abyss? The relatives usually having it are unwilling to express to looking after a patient or treating the patient's negative feeling, always say to oneself " It is right to take care of a patient" ,And apt to ignore one's own psychological burden, a lot of people, to " care for or will feel a pain to treat a patient very much " Feel whether whether it is ashamed or should,apt to constrain by one's own idea, seldom express with others. Some relatives can not really pay the medical fee that a patient further treated, have to imprison the patient at home, guard by oneself. A very grieved one is: People are in love, but disease is merciless. The relatives of a lot of patients are on condition that cannot help but force finally, perhaps long-term psychological burden accumulates together, because of being disturbed and made the extreme behavior by the mood for the moment. Some relatives are unable to face patient's suffering agony, free from the agony in a manner to commit suicide. A lot of people are very apt to express sympathy on patient, but it is easy and supporting to give to seldom check on to the patient's relatives, even a lot of relatives have neglected one's own psychological pressure and health to bear while taking care of the patient physically and mentally, some people do not even know these pressures have already surmounted one's own heart body and born the range, lieutenant general has fallen into the painful abyss that can't be saved either to have no intention finally, even move towards the dead end. Some relatives are out of hand on condition that really can't stand, obtain freeing for the life of finishing the patient. Such as the the intersection of sixty-year-old and married couple, in can't control impulse of infant, see at the infant bites mother, mood and reason are all out of hand, only think the psychological condition of freeing immediately lets it produce impulse which strangles the son. There are patients in the family, when could go out of the agony abyss, when could free? The patient's recovery is especially recovery of some difficult and complicated cases, it is very difficult to only depend on relatives, family's meagre strength. Without social forces, the support of the psychological expert, perhaps a lot of patients or relatives can only be freed in appropriate or extreme way. There are patients in the family, not only the patient needs relatives' support, relatives also need to get the professional support of the psychological expert, need to look for the help of social forces even more. As " psychologically, at the time of the upper, economical support of medical science that patient and family members have some channels that can obtain, could when going out of the agony abyss wait. As the saying goes " Silver lining " ,Perhaps sometimes the patient can not achieve one's goal and totally recover, under everybody's strength at least, we can choose to go out of the desperate agony, when someone can share the agony with us, even if the life is destined to lose, can leave away in caring about, let tragedies be a little fewer and take place, regret to leave some fewer. My family's neighbour had a woman of trouble and heart disease 15 years ago, its husband is stricken with anxiety and fear 10 years for her, this healthy husband dashes for ward the puberty to die because of acute myocardium infarction finally, and this wife is also alive so far. I was not very apt to understand, later on I understood, why this husband walked first instead at that time, because this husband is always afraid wife's heart disease is sent, see the doctor and prepare the wealth the wife constantly, not only work very hard but also always wrap up all kinds of matter in home completely robbing after going home, so we easy to understand the the intersection of body and mind and tired out husband, finally anxious to produce myocardium infarction. The relatives of a lot of depression patients are tormented by depression too finally. A lot of depression patients are afraid of tying down relatives, choose to commit suicide too. Only kill, or commit suicide, after being killed the grieved incident, is patient and what relatives stepped from the agony abyss when? In China where the knowledge of psychological health is deficient, a lot of people have not taken a patient into account, can't refer to relatives' psychological burden still more. In a lot of developed countries, many relatives of different type patients support the group, a lot of relatives can share one's own feeling together, the crowd of the same experience can understand each other to get together, can obtain mutual support and comfort. Psychological support that needs in the course that many psychological workers provide disease for patient and relative and recover in various ways. They can win help from society, doctor not including the family, and does not need to be freed through the way of this kind of end life. The psychological centre of the intimate one is specially established " Relative's soul shows loving care for " Support group, help patient and relative go out of the intersection of agony and abyss, let more collective intelligence, care about and strength, while helping patient and relative to welcome and go out of the agony abyss. The special line of registration: 021-64689809

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