From covering with the ox " Apologize on the door " Dissect the psychology of apologizing

From covering with the ox " Apologize on the door " Dissect the psychology of apologizing
Milk industry's giant is indebted to oxen and apologize, but the dispute will not recur really? We common people are regarded as " God " ,But never obtained corresponding power. Covered with the apologizing and facing consumers too of the ox? We think drinking milk comfortable, how be or so getting difficult? It is obvious the psychology of apologizing, all of us should learn it in order to strive. Wen Jiabao Premier " educational matter of fundamental importance, based on teacher, " mention classification of petrology in the article on him, have published in the newspaper to correct. As to this, the media is well received, or appreciate its conscientious and meticulous practical approach to one's work, or praise its mistaken rigorous spirit that changes promptly, or sing the praises of its broad and level and sincere noble personality. But I appreciate Premier Wen's modest and courteous attitude of apologizing to people with enthusiasm, and therefore expect, people (no matter ordinary common people or leading cadre, the abundant intellectual that supports of both totally illiterate all and knowledge) Should study some " The psychology of apologizing " . In actual life, apologizing should not become a kind of rare conduct. A person's speech or behavior causes shouldering influence to others generally, it is necessary to apologize. For example walk and collide with the pedestrian carelessly and have no intention of injuring the colleague in a word, it is " sorry " to say ,Misunderstand and dispel, does not form unpleasantness; Unidentified the intersection of truth of the matter and mistake criticize friend, when being agitated until family take place nameless fire mood, it compensates piece to be that vanish grievance, become reconciled later; For being unable to study tightly, lecturing or writing articles presents " hard wound " ,Mislead audiences or readers, does not resort to sophistry, does not feel ashamed to ask oppositely and correct error in time, apologize candidly, can receive public understanding and respect too; Even here to look like " The Culture Revolution " In so special period, you have treated others by mistake in a too drastic way, so long as you bring up a bow to the victim sincerely, the household dislikes before the possible accountant too. Just as the American psychologist covered * auspicious Chapman and said: "In the most important relation, a kind of thing must be paid by you in your life, and need courage and sincere and could be realized, it apologizes. " In paying attention to country ethics political and aesthetics political, it apologizes to be to fill, disappear contradictorily and promoting harmonious " bind pharmaceuticals " ,Improve human, measure the civilized one " The scale pole " . Study " psychology of apologizing " The doctor think now that plucked instrument * full of trees of quite successful American University of Massachusetts Philippines is bright, the best apology opportunity is to realize in 48 hours after the fault, after missing, you had better not " The repetition of the old tale " . This words are analyzed from the psychological angle, perhaps there is one side of its rationality, obviously there is limitation to but inspect the realistic society. Since breaking out in financial crisis, Britain has been mauled, economy glides continuously, pound sterling devalues by a wide margin. Several top economists of Britain have not predicted financial crisis by oneself when signing jointly " Time, range and severity " Make to empress and all people sincerely and apologize, claim this is that " a batch of intelligence personage's collective neglects one's supervisory duties " . These of Britain " The intelligence personage " Collective last that 48 hour " The best opportunity " ,But it stills have practical political meaning and great economic worth, absolutely not simple " bring up a matter of the past " . It seems, the key of apologizing does not lie in one day and two days time, but lie in out of which kind of motive you are, whether have sincerity. The apology with sincerity does not lose the face, should really say and lose, then it is the falsehood too, but that observed is the intuitive knowledge! This courteous, poised bearing of apologizing is common in the political circles too. Is that right? Reason of Ma Yingjiu, leader of Taiwan " Moura overcomes " Provide disaster relief and do one's best to apologize to in the typhoon deep bows of people; The Vice President of nearly one year of the Nepalese dispute Hindi makes vow a case was finished at last, the court sentences to a Vice President to make vow again with Nepal's indigenous language, and apologize to people; Since US President the intersection of and bar will let at once, apologize to the public again and again, will not merely apologize to domestic American people, apologize to foreigner frequently, American media claim the intersection of Palestinian and horse become, apologize most frequent the president already. The personages of these political V.I.P.s bow and apologize to to the public in the formal occasion, or have one's face covered with tears, or the difficult language of choking with sobs, or utter cries of anguish, even someone offers one's apology with death in the world, suspected of making a show unavoidably among themming and false Yu, however, regard apologizing as a kind of self-accusation making an indiscreet remark, neglecting one's supervisory duties, neglecting one's duty, the public will still respond with the sympathy, understanding of a certain degree and praise. No wonder, not long ago, hundred rural children blood lead of Baoji mayor's factor exceeded standard seriously, " excited villagers " While assaulting the pollution sources factory and intercepting the road traffic, the bow body, in order to show the apology repeatedly to villagers, also favorably noticed by media and public one. It seems to already become a common manner in political life to apologize, this, to rigid officialdom culture and supercilious officialdom situation, it is undoubtedly a kind of catalysis and are subverted. It it is self-evident proves: Officers will be mistaken too, you must apologize if you are mistaken. Officers not only show personal conduct especially while apologizing, the more important thing is to safeguard the prestige of common right. If on the contrary, then, while belittling government's image, officers will lose sincerity, lose poise, lose intuitive knowledge and lose the popular feelings finally.

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