The cultivation of personality determine child's happiness in all one's life

The cultivation of personality, determine child's happiness in all one's life
Want money give, grow up, have money rob outstanding to paint book Sun childhood Capital University of Medical Sciences subsidiary Yi Zheng, Anding Hospital of Beijing, in recent years, children receive much concern by the intersection of teenagers and psychological problem. According to the investigation, the psychological behavior problem incidence of children 4~16 years old of the whole country is up to 13.91%. An investigation discovery in Beijing, 32% of the middle and primary schools survive in certain psychological problem, Chinese big city children have 7% to 20% of the personality obstacles or psychological diseases with various kinds type. There should be teenagers of colorful time, why present the personality crisis in the course of growing up? Analysis and suggestion of psychological medical and health experts, perhaps can arouse enough attention to psychological health problems of children of the whole society, correct some deviations to child's educational idea of everybody. --The editor Xiao Yang is a 13 -year-old Junior Two student, because parents are busy doing business and having no time to manage him, brought up by the grandmother while as a child. The grandmother regards Xiao Yang as sweetheart's treasure, give him much pocket money. The snacks constant Xiao Yang has formed the bad habit liked spending money all day. At the primary school, he often forms the habits of the petty thefts because the money is not enough to spend. After entering junior middle school, Xiao Yang begins to lie frequently, hot-tempered, unwilling to accept the criticism of parents and teacher, moreover, regard oneself as the centre more and more, easy to control and criticize classmates, lack sympathy. Once the class cleans up, he splashes water on the ground that arrives and cleans on purpose, still laugh heartily. For this reason, the classmates all are far away from him, he almost has no friend. What happened to on earth a lot of psychological obstacle origins are just Xiao Yang in Childhood? His parents find a doctor anxiously, it is puzzled and helpless that full of while inquiring. The doctor tells parents, child's present situation is " conduct obstacle " ,And the crime that personality is abnormal after being very apt to result in growing up. Indeed, the psychology is unusual, personality is abnormal and in close relation with malignant incident and crime. In recent years, add the rank of nobility incident, and case of seeing various students of all newspapers commit suicide, kill parents, slaughter classmates repeatedly etc. from Liu HaiYang incident to the horse, can nearly all see the characteristic of the personality of morbid state from party. Count according to one psychology consultation clinic of affiliated hospital of medical university in Guangzhou, 3828 are consulted in the case, 10~29 -year-old students of teenagers account for 66.35%, the consultation case of the personality of morbid state has accounted for 87.5%. An investigation in Guangzhou shows, the proportion of student with the personality obstacle rises year by year. An investigation from Beijing reveals, Chinese big city children have 7% to 20% of the personality obstacles or psychological diseases with various kinds type. With the development of medical science and progress of the society, people are common to begin to pay close attention to the psychological health, " depression " ," anxious disease " Everybody has been already no longer strange. However, psychological problems of children have not caused the attention yet. Hardly realize, a lot of psychological obstacle origins are just in Childhood. The ones that lived are arduous, the torment of the emotion makes some people go astray, the behavior is out of control; And most people can regulate and adapt to the change of the environment and control the complicated incident; There are many people's encouraging and distillation own psychological conditions even more, have opened up a " new field " again ,Become succeeding and happy outstanding one of family The same environment, the same experience, the circumstances are far different in life. Trace it to its cause, the key lies in" the psychology defends the power of the mechanism " With " the perfecting of personality" . And determine in key period when the psychology defends the decisive factor that mechanism and personality are sound and lies in psychology and personality development - -Whether the Childhood psychology is healthy. Value body more than the psychology, value intelligence more than ability, lead to the fact the hearts of teenagers body is developed disharmoniously At the present stage, there are more and more only-children in our country, people pay attention to the infant's early education more and more too, as will be reported in the media, " the parents of China have never been the time, money and energies of so much of the child's input in education like today " ,And the one that turned out contrary to one's wishes is, " the child of China has never faced so many questions as today does: Selfish, wilful, gluttonous and lazy and not paying attention to manners, being mannerless, lacking the ideal "Studies have suggested, the only-child often amalgamates more mental hygiene questions: Wilful and fragile, short-tempered, independence and social contact ability are comparatively stressed in the only-child badly. Nowadays the only-child educates, value body more than the psychology, value knowledge more than ability, heavy intellectual development, the inclination of ignoring personality's training is extremely serious. Character building education has appealed for our country for more than 20 years, but still some people think " run and jump, write drawing or play singing " Carry on character building education to students. In fact, this is to the superficial seeing of character building education, even twist. It has only paid attention to some external forms of character building education in fact, and neglected its most essential thing - -Cultivation of student's right personality. The so-called right personality, refer to having good moral characters, there is correct outlook on life, there are better intelligence levels, broadminded, the interpersonal relationships are good, mood is often happy, good at analyzing things and questions met objectively, have willpower and ability to solve problem or contradiction. From the viewpoint of children's mental hygiene, it is really essential to train children's right personality, can have good psychological health level and ability to meet environment after making them grow up. American educationist Dell Carnegie thinks after carrying on the extensive investigation to the celebrities from all walks of life, success on the personal undertaking, 15% depend on their remarkable knowledge and professional technique, 85% depend on the personality psychological quality out of the ordinary. Therefore someone says: " personality is the destiny " . That is to say, besides talent and opportunity, personality is life succeeding or not, happy key factor or not of determining people. The golden times formed by the personality 0~6 years old, the cultivation of right personality should be born to pick up from the child Under the leading of famous spiritual medical and health expert Professor Chen XueShi of our country, we have carried on the system research of infant and pre-school children's right personality. The result of study shows: The golden times formed by the personality 0~6 years old, with the years later, the plasticity of personality will be smaller and smaller. Even Ke emphasizes infant's personality's training in period very much in the former Soviet Union educationist's horse's card, he thinks: "The main education foundation was established 5 years old ago, but the personality during this period is educated will influence a person's life. " There is a folk adage " sees largely at three years old, see old in seven years " in our country ,That said is this reason too. So, the cultivation of right personality should be born to pick up from the child. Modern psychology and education expert summarize and sum up the function that children's psychology develops in key period, think children's psychological development has sensitive one (0~6 years old) of language , the sensitive one (2~4 years old) of order , sensitive one (0~6 years old) of sense organ , to the slight thing Interested sensitivity period (1.5~4 years old) of thing , the sensitive one (0~6 years old) of movement , social the intersection of norm and sensitive one ' 2.5~6 years old) , sensitive? ? 3.5~4.5 years old) , read sensitive one (4.5~5.5 year old) , the sensitive one (6~9 years old) of culture 9 loud sensitive one ' Covered with the profit of special shuttleless loom) . Can get up to the children education to the result of getting twice the result with half the effort in correct guide and education of science in key period, even decisive result. If a child has no environment of the language in the key period of the language, it is almost useless that the teenager trains languages again, " wolf-child " Example like this. In children's physical and psychological development, parents are often physiological nutrition supplement of the child very in time, pay attention to, even " kind to run the bad thing " . For example, some parents deprive the basic psychology of child's game and friend-making to need on the grounds of studying, still add a large amount of violating child's psychology and developing and can't understanding " Adult abstract knowledge " ,Lack the order, social norm, rule, courteous etc. to basically educate and guide even more. Therefore the result caused is, the child's behavior problem emerges in an endless stream: Learn not to take the first, throw " thallium " in the drinking water of the first place ; Classmate's relation place is not good, kill others; Even take drug, commit suicide, kill Seientific child-bearing, it is even more important to prevent trouble before it happens. To teenagers' cultivation, should emphasize: No ask everybody to succeed the talent, should bring into full play each one's ability, " champion " appears in every trade . The representatives of world children wrote in " peace treaties of children " signed in New York of U.S.A. in 1986: "We will laugh heartily together, play together, work together, learn from each other, explore and improve everybody's life. " This is declared to us publicly, the trend of children's personality development in 21st century: Children should not only learn to survive but also learn to care about people, cherish people, unite people, not only have competition spirit opened up but also be good at cooperating with people.

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