What is meant by the pressure? Change an angle and see the pressure

What is meant by the pressure? Change an angle and see the pressure
What is a pressure? Nowadays, the pressure becomes the buzzword that the job market had. Then, what is a pressure? Associate professor Meng Yan says, the pressure has four kinds of explanations. First, the pressure is a psychological conflict produced while facing choosing or facing changing. For example, such buses as we go to work in the morning, will want the late bus soon but not come even after stalling for a long time, face choosing at this time: Continue etc., may be late; Take a taxi immediately, but will spend money extraly, such choice in a dilemma will let people produce the pressure. Again for example, company's line manager has resigned, backbone's you may compete for posts as the business, facing the change of this kind of position, you produced psychological pressure. Second, the pressure is a pessimistic explanation of the unknown incident. For example, the superior lets you get once of his office, you do not know it is anything, begin to talk in whispers in the heart: Which job mine has not done well, does the leader want to criticize me? Dismiss me is it possible that? Such uneasy pessimistic explanation, let people very " entangled with " ,Produce the pressure. Third, the pressure is that the constant energy is consumed. For example, has already worked overtime for two weeks continuously, the leader says again: "Do not have a rest this weekend, finish the work. " This kind of protracted war will let people present depressed, insomnia, depressed, etc, this is a kind of pressure too. Fourth, the pressure is that the instinct when faces the threat reacts. For example military to loose when the open ridge of scene meets tigers, at that moment, face the enormous pressure. How to think about the pressure? Associate professor Meng Yan says, has terrible pressures, there is a pressure everywhere in the life work, the more important thing is how to think about the pressure. The appropriate pressure is benign, can stimulate a lot of latent energy of people's, can impel people to learn a lot of things, can let us know how to study, consult others, you will become a generalist slowly, no pressure, no motive force, in fact people's growth and development are to meet the course in the pressure constantly. However, it will cause psychosomatic disorder that the pressure is too large, the simplest one can not go with rice, can't fall asleep, the serious meeting causes gastric ulcer, infertile sterility even cancer,etc.. So, in the face of the pressure, should learn to regulate. Support the happiness garden in open five guarantees of Ying, it is the old man of the five guarantees because of the serivce object, staff member want, face sight of common customs frequently, many people produce " it serves old mans to be inferior to others " Thought. Meng Yan says, this is a kind of pressure too, but this kind of pressure is not brought by job, but come from the unreasonable, view distorted on the work. A concrete method to regulate the pressure is to change cognition, realize the properties of the work correctly. Because the work is not classified, not when you do not fear those social prejudice, you have no pressure. Story of small Buddhist monk's insight Do some staff members propose, the work is too uninteresting, want to job-hop and will not do, what is to be done? Associate professor Meng Yan has told a story: Insight of the small Buddhist monk. The old Buddhist monk takes the ship training an apprentice, because is seasick, a small Buddhist monk has been complaining all the time: "The weather is very terrible, we originally should not appear on the far door this time, should not take the ship. " One billow call suddenly, small Buddhist monk fall, get on the sea, almost drowned. Everybody's frantic hand rescues him and goes on board, the small Buddhist monk embraces the mast without letting go: "How safe while just knowing the ship in the sea, so long as can live on, let me spit the bile out on the ship I am willing. " The old Buddhist monk has smiled: Your insight. We often say so: "If Heaven gives the chance to me once again, I want "Would rather cherish at the moment than regret having done, however, we always just comprehend to the lost preciousness when on the predicament in person. Meng Yan associate professor say no matter how negligibly it will be work that you make, commonplace, because it can change your life, is influencing others' life. It is though a bit more hard, a bit more uninteresting to work here, always stronger than not to find the person of the work. The less than satisfactory thing in life is in eight or nine cases out of ten, always there are this or that fully up to expectations things in life, we can't wallow in to complain all day. Write down, " it gives three Is to be bright in day " Helen, authoress of American, one disabled person that incorporate blind, deaf, mute into an organic whole in Keller ", she has a famous saying spreading far and wide: "When I complain I has no shoes to wear, but find some people have no foot. " At the lecture scene, the staff write down this famous saying one after another, as spuring oneself on in the job. Change an angle and look at problem Are there the staff that propose what if oneself does not like the old man? Associate professor Meng Yan says, the nursery work is dirty and tired, and some old men are unsociable and eccentric, incompatible with young people's personality, a lot of young staff members produced and is tired of mood. "We should replacement think, we have not very going even in fact, if everybody dislikes me at that time, how will I think? If everybody treats me as the relative, I am how to make warm in the heart. " Replacement think it is the intersection of people and a kind of psychology in people that experience the course, feel for others, see things as one would if he were in someone else's place, reach and understand the indispensable psychological mechanism. Require objectively it on we one's own inner world,for instance experience emotion, mode of thinking,etc. connected as the other side, stand on the position of the other side experiencing and thinking the question, thus communicate with the other side on the emotion, establish the foundation for promoting understanding. It is a kind of understanding, it is a kind of care too! Understand, believe in each other between men, and should learn to think deeply in replacement, this is the foundation of associating between men - -Tolerant and understanding, stand on others' angle thinking more. In the lecture, associate professor Meng Yan has extracted a little poem " I feel grateful ", mutuallies encourages with everybody: "It is tired when one day finish and muscles ache, that shows I have ability to work with all one's might; The clothes are tighter and tighter, that shows I eat very well; There is shade that accompanies my work, that shows me under the bright sunshine; Various kinds of complain about what the government discontented with, that shows we have freedom of speech; There are huge electric rate bills, that shows I blow air conditioning very comfortably; Excessive E-mail, that shows that there are a lot of friends that will think of me " Sometimes, it is worried and very simple to dissolve, only change the angle treating the problem.

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